What is the Difference between Equal and Fair Inheritances

Deciding how to disperse a lifetime of assets among heirs is a common issue seen by estate planning attorneys. The idea of being “fair” to family members generally refers to a wish to divide the estate equitably, according to a recent article from The News-Enterprise, “Fair isn’t same as equal when dividing estate.”

Assets are commonly distributed by giving each person an equal share. If a beneficiary has died, their share generally passes to their descendants, or the living heirs divide the decedent’s share.

In some cases, gifts already made to heirs need to be taken into consideration. Let’s say one child has received an $18,000 gift to help purchase a house. The parents may decide to deduct this amount in their Wills from the beneficiary’s overall inheritance to keep asset distribution fair to the other children.

If one of the children has supported a parent, provided housing, or devoted time and effort towards their care, the parent's Will may give the caregiving child more to recognize their dedication. Caregiving adults give up a great deal to care for aging parents, sometimes delaying their careers or losing out on career or social opportunities. This seems like a reasonable response. However, it may engender resentment from the non-caregiving siblings. An estate plan should be very clear about this distribution method, and a letter of intent may be useful in case of any court challenges.

When the family includes disabled individuals, distribution may be based on their short- and long-term needs. For instance, an adult child who is unable to support themselves may be the recipient of assets through a Special Needs Trust. If they inherit assets directly, they may become ineligible for government benefits. A Special Needs Trust requires the help of an estate planning attorney to ensure that the Special Needs Trust is created properly.

When adult children have achieved different levels of financial success, parents sometimes also choose to provide more for the children who need more help. A conversation with all of the children should occur so they understand why one sibling is receiving more than another.

Blended families face challenges when distributing assets between stepparents and stepsiblings. Assets are usually divided between spouses, and then the spouses distribute their shares of the estate to their children. Marital trusts may be needed to ensure that no child is disinherited, and an experienced estate planning attorney will be able to structure the estate properly to achieve this goal.

Suppose spouses in a blended family have significantly different levels of assets. In that case, the couple may leave additional assets to the spouse's heirs with a higher net worth. How assets are distributed will also depend on whether or not the couple has merged their finances and whether or not each has agreed to waive their spousal claim on each other’s estates.

An estate planning attorney works with families to decide how they wish to distribute their wealth and guides the process to make it as conflict-free as possible. Fair is not always equal. However, planning and full transparency can build bonds between family members.

Reference: The News-Enterprise (Dec. 7, 2024) “Fair isn’t same as equal when dividing estate”